Separation. It's a big, scary word when it comes to your relationship. And what does it even mean? 

Have you ever been in a fight with your partner, trying your best to explain just why their actions hurt you, and suddenly, out of nowhere, they throw out a separate complaint of their own?

Couples typically come to therapy hoping to cultivate feelings of warmth, love, and connection in their relationship. I want those outcomes for you, and I love helping partners regain connection. But sometimes I also encourage the couples I work with to set another goal - tolerance.

A common piece of advice that couples receive (from self-help books, the internet, and therapists) is to communicate using “I statements.” But this seemingly simple tip can actually lead some couples astray. In this post, I break down why “I statements” might not work for you and how to focus on what really matters instead.

Couple Therapy for high conflict relationships is a speciality, but it’s not one with one particular training, schooling, or background. You won’t find a list of “high conflict couples therapists" in a list or database. However, there are strategies you can use to evaluate potential therapists for their skillset and fit.

Although I work with all kinds of couples, I specialize in helping partners whose relationships are “high conflict.” High conflict couples have a lot of intense, out-of-control, and hurtful fights.